There’s a fine line between holding your tongue so as not to hurt other peoples’ feelings, and letting people hurt yours..
I’m too sleepy to be articulate right now, but I’m pretty sure I need to work on finding that line and learning to walk along it.
[Edit Nov 8th: please also read this]
Yes it’s very fine and sometimes hard to see! But all we humans sometimes tread heavily on it and just have to hope those who might feel part of our imprint love us enough to feel that we didn’t intend to do that.
“Sorry” and “I forgive” are important words that can help us reconstruct the line and perhaps see it better next time a situation arises.
Good luck with your own personal “fine line”.
PS. I have had “foot in mouth” problems many times because I often speak too quickly without due consideration of the outcome so I know how easy these things happen.
Thank you 🙂 I’ll bear that in mind, next time someone tries to imprint me! 🙂
More thoughts here: https://notthrowingstones.wordpress.com/2015/11/09/on-hurt-feelings-part-2/
That’s very true, though easier said than done! More often than not we don’t realize we’ve crossed the line till we’re standing their with hurt feelings wondering how it got this far..
This is also true. And sometimes I stand there with my own hurt feelings… 🙁
More thoughts here: https://notthrowingstones.wordpress.com/2015/11/09/on-hurt-feelings-part-2/
Walking that line is part of my daily life. I guess it’s everyone’s, that is if we care about the impact we have on others.
If you have any tips, they’d be appreciated 🙂
I wish I had some that didn’t sound so cliche. I’m winging it just like you:)
Self-awareness and giving yourself a moment before a response can be helpful. Though life happens so fast. Sometimes you’re either gonna have a knee-jerk reaction or no reaction at all.
I’m glad I’m not the only one winging it! 🙂
More thoughts here: https://notthrowingstones.wordpress.com/2015/11/09/on-hurt-feelings-part-2/
Take a deep breath (or two) before you say that perfectly bitchy thing you need to say… Sometimes just those few seconds are enough for you to decide whether you really NEED to say it, or just WANT to.
Thank you 🙂
Sometimes I want to say something and don’t, sometimes I need to say something and don’t. Hopefully that will change soon.
More thoughts here: https://notthrowingstones.wordpress.com/2015/11/09/on-hurt-feelings-part-2/