I’m not actually sure that this applies to anyone else, but it’s something that really bothers me.

If you’re going to do something for me, do it because you want to and not in order to tell me about having done it (because,  chances are, I would have done it if you hadn’t got there first). Do it because you can and not because you think I can’t (because I probably could). Do it because you notice it needs doing, but don’t go out of your way to look for failure (because he who seeks, finds, and there’s no reason to depress yourself).

If you could bear that in mind, that would be lovely, thanks.