Kate asked me earlier if I would prefer a partner who would cheer me up when I was down, or one who would cheer me on when I was doing well. (Or at least words to that effect).
I was at work, and a bit distracted, but I automatically said, “both”, followed a little while later by, “but if I had to choose, then one who can cheer me up”.
Now, on the train home from work, I wonder why I chose that.
I think, although I’m not sure, that I can find other people to cheer me on when things are working well.
On a good day, I can even cheer myself on.
On a bad day, I am mostly incapable of seeing or thinking enough good things to bring me back up to neutral, never mind to happy. I’m a determinedly independent climber, so I don’t often ask for help to get out of my hole. When I do, it’s generally because it’s got really really deep, so deep I can hardly see the sky, and have started forgetting that there’s life outside the hole. That’s quite late to ask, and the climb is a long one. Much longer than necessary.
If my partner could do his magic on my mood every time it started digging, I could probably do the rest.
Maybe I’m not actually that good at cheering myself on.
Maybe, if I had a personal cheerleader, I wouldn’t feel the need to dig in the first place.
I think I’ll stick with both. That covers most, if not all eventualities.
Good question though.